How to Forgive our Debtors?
When conflict arises, hatred and unforgiveness then follows. Love and hate are two opposite terms. And it can’t be felt at the same time. We often think of revenge when someone hurts us. But let us come to think about this: God has been so good to us despite of our many sins. His mercy and grace is immeasurable. Then, who are we not forgive our debtors? We are just human and are not exempted to commit sins.
Let us not hoard grudges against our brethrens. Jesus said, “Father forgive them, for they don’t know what they are doing”(Luke 23:34). Forgiving those who tresspass against us is the best thing we need to do as God’s children. “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you”(Colossians 3:13). In forgiving others will give us peace that this world can’t offer. It is an inner peace of knowing God’s grace fully in our lives.
Peace can only begin when we have a forgiving heart. And it could only be achieved if we are willing to live in harmony with other people despite of our differences. “Whoever would poster love covers over an offense, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends”( Proverbs 17:9). Love should be the basis of forgiving those who broke our hearts. Hate however, should not dwell in our hearts. It will only make our lives miserable. And living in a life of unforgiveness will definitely lead us towards destruction.
We must have a heart full of love and compassion to others. In this way, we most likely to forgive our debtors. It maybe so hard for us and it would take time to forgive and forget those who has wronged us. However, let time heals the wound of the past and everything will flow smoothly. Thus, if we are able to forgive our enemies, God will definitely forgive us. And our willingness to forgive others would bring healing to our souls. And we will experience real peace deep within us.